Infidelity Therapist in New York, NY
Infidelity can severely harm or even end a once healthy relationship. As each couple’s history, long-term expectations, and what they need from their partner varies, so does the definition of infidelity. The information below is meant to assist you in determining if infidelity help is the right path for your relationship.
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What Counts As Infidelity?
Infidelity can take many forms and is a very couple specific experience. There are sexual, emotional, and even object affairs, and what qualifies as infidelity depends on the faithful spouse’s interpretation. Interpretation is a key aspect of healing after infidelity, empathetically acknowledging how both you and your partner’s roles lead your relationship to its current standing. The harmed spouse can be quick to jump to a complete disregard for what led their partner to cheat, but to rebuild, recover, and stabilize a relationship, each perspective needs to be understood.
Sexual affairs are the most widely known, but emotional affairs can be just as damaging, if not more, to the stability and trust within a relationship. Emotional affairs occur when one partner seeks out the bonding intimacy from another partner that is meant to be obtained, and at the expense of, the faithful partner. This can occur online, in-person, at work, and even become a subconscious interaction with another individual outside of the relationship. There is often a reoccurrence of this deceptive behavior, in which a partner repeatedly seeks outside support (sexually, emotionally, etc.). This situation involves a more complex digging into the roots of the reasons behind such a long-term commitment to infidelity.
Remember, these are mere possibilities and can be interconnected or not involved at all.
- Low self-esteem/confidence
- Viewed as an out from a relationship
- Poor conflict resolution
- Lifestyle changes/transitionary periods
This list is not the end all be all and feelings stemming from infidelity can take many forms.
- Faithful partner: Anxiety, depression, self-harm, grief, misplaced blame, anger, PTSD, changes in lifestyle (substance abuse, unsafe sexual practices, eating disorders, poor work performance)
- Unfaithful partner: Anxiety, depression, grief, shame, guilt
Our Therapeutic Approaches
Your Counseling Experience
Each therapeutic experience is different, and each session can unlock helpful and new paths to explore in the healing process. The below are just to give you a general idea, hopefully instilling a bit of confidence and easing of any worry associated with seeking treatment.
- 60-minute sessions generally, once a week
- Short-term work can last between 3-6 months or whenever you feel you’ve reached the version of your relationship you were seeking
- Long-term work also lasts as long as you both need
How We Choose Your Therapist
- What you need to reach mental well-being together
- Your personalities and energies
- Your communication styles
- Our therapist’s specialties, training, interests, and own lived experiences
- Our therapist’s approach and communication style
In the Meantime
Extensive research has found that these simplistic and mindful lifestyle changes have a drastic effect on daily life. Give them a shot if you need some peace.
- Experiencing nature
- Conscious, deep breathing
- Maintain an active lifestyle
- Healthy diet