Conflict within a relationship can be sourced from and surface for a variety of reasons, life events, actions, communication issues, family discrepancies, parenting conflicts, and so on. It can erupt after one harmful event, such as infidelity, or slowly progress over years of ineffective conflict management and unmet needs, to the point where you may need to think more about divorce counseling. Just as with individual therapy, every couple is approached differently because your reasoning for seeking help cannot be narrowed within a pre-defined treatment path. Every couple, whether married, engaged, dating and everything in between, communicates differently and brings their own history to the table.
A couple is purely the act of individuals coming together, and oftentimes that notion is thrown to the wayside in the pursuit of greater harmony. Although the end goal of couples therapy is to find peace within your relationship, whatever that means to you, there needs to be a deep understanding of the individual and the self within this wider unit. Individuals bring forth varying attachment styles, previous relationship scars, unhealthy communication tools, and ineffective patterns of behavior that can cause harm to the relationship. There can be no growth or healthy changes in behavior, through therapy and counseling services or otherwise, unless the responsibility is taken by both parties, not necessarily as to their faults, but simply as to their roles.