Divorce Counseling in New York, NY
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What is Divorce Counseling?
A divorce is never something anyone intends on having to experience, which merely amplifies the feelings that follow such an event. Divorce is one of life’s most complicated transitionary periods, oftentimes unwanted by one of the individuals involved. Even if the divorce isn’t conflict-based and remains amicable, several aspects of life change, requiring a readjustment of what both daily life and emotional well-being mean. The multifaceted nature of removing oneself, or being removed from, such an intertwined connection with another being is oftentimes likened to grieving over a loved one that has passed. There are stages to this loss, including but not limited to sadness, denial, depression, anger, guilt, bargaining, and finally, acceptance.
Our divorce counselors act as your guide on this complicated journey, whether that involves discernment, pre-divorce, post-divorce, individual, or couples counseling. No one route towards healing during and after a divorce is the right road to take, and we keep this adaptable perspective throughout all aspects of our therapy. We encourage a safe environment to discuss the divorce process, emotional involvement, coping, and finding a mutually beneficial road towards cooperative decision making.
Remember, these are mere possibilities and divorce is multifaceted.
- Infidelity
- Communication discrepancies
- Physical and/or emotional abuse
- Life changes
- Finances
This list is not the end all be all and the symptoms of divorce can take many forms.
Cognitive symptoms: stages of grief, anger, sadness, depression, anxiety
Physical symptoms: sleep disturbances, weight fluctuations
Behavioral symptoms: social isolation, reliance on social support as a replacement for the partner, identity crisis
Discernment couples counseling: This type of couples counseling is meant to assist you in making the right decision for your relationship. Although it is not directly linked to divorce counseling, it can lead down this path as we help you determine whether maintaining your relationship is the right choice for you both.
Pre-divorce counseling: Here we delve into communication issues, the well-being of your children, if appropriate, emotions arising as you begin the divorce process, and what methods will help you cope with these stressful, next steps.
Post-divorce counseling: This is where the rebuilding of oneself takes priority, as self-esteem tends to be drastically reduced in one or both individuals. The reality of raising children separately, having to build a new life, and dealing with finances are all massive hurdles we help you overcome and heal from.
Due to the complex nature of divorce, involving finances, emotions, and interconnected social relationships, we take a small steps approach to delving into all aspects of this transition and any past relationship conflicts that could potentially transfer over into your individual lives.
Our Therapeutic Approaches
Your Counseling Experience
Each therapeutic experience is different, and each session can unlock helpful and new paths to explore during the healing process. The below are just to give you a general idea, hopefully instilling a bit of confidence and ease any worry associated with seeking therapy.
- 60-minute sessions generally, once a week
- Short-term work can last between 3-6 months or whenever you feel you’ve reached the versions of yourselves you were seeking
- Long-term work also lasts as long as you both need
How We Choose Your Therapist
- What you both need to reach mental well-being
- Your personalities and energies
- Your communication styles
- Our therapist’s specialties, training, interests, and own lived experiences
- Our therapist’s approach and communication style
In the Meantime
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- Meditation
- Yoga
- Reiki
- Experiencing nature
- Conscious, deep breathing
- Maintain an active lifestyle
- Healthy diet